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H-10- -THE INDIANAPOLIS STAR- -SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 13, 19 Love alone falls short; marriage feeds on friendship By BARBARA DIOBILDA SCRIPPS HOWARD NEWS SERVICE hey say won't pay the rent, but they used marriage to believe work. that it would at least make a Think again, says noted psychologist and author Sol Gordon in a -published book. Why Love Is Not Enough (Bob Adams Sometimes, love won't even buy a jug of cheap wine. "For one neurotic reason or another, men and women sometimes fall hopelessly in love with people they don't even know very well, let alone like." Gordon says. "If there is simply no rational component to a love relationship, the odds are pretty stiff against its lasting for any period of time.

in love" becomes 'tragically in love." What constitutes a good marriage? Sheldon Rifkin, a licensed clinical psychologist WEDDINGS Bland-Jacobs Mary Alice Bland a and Charles Allen Jacobs IlI. both of Cary, N.C., were married Nov. 5 in Ephesus Baptist Church in Cary. Their parents are Mr. and Mrs.

Kenneth L. Bland of Hickory, N.C., and Mr. and Mrs. Jacobs Jr. of Char- lotte, N.C.

The bride graduated from Wittenberg University. She is a drug information specialist for Burroughs Wellcome Company. Her husband graduated University of North Carolina. He is in technical support for SAS Institute. Bowyer-Johnson Patricia Loraine Bowyer of Johnson City, and Michael Albert Johnson of Milligan College.

married overs in the Hales Chapel Christian Church in Gray, Tenn. Their parents are Mr. and Mrs. James D. Bowyer of Indianapolis and Mr.

and Mrs. Dick Johnson of Elizabethton, Tenn. The couple graduated from Milligan College, where the bridegroom is an admissions counselor. The bride is a psychiatric technician at Woodridge Hospital. Castor-Cinotto Lee Ann Cas-1 tor of Enid.

and Jeffrey John Cinotto of Morgantown were married Nov. 5 in Oakwood Christian Church in Enid. Their parents are Mr. and Mrs. Herbert Lee Castor of Enid, and Jyme M.

Cinotto and Mr. and Mrs. John A. Cinotto of Carmel. The bridegroom is employed by Cinotto Architectural Systems Inc.

Coultas-Clark Kristina Marie Coultas and Dr. Mark Daniel Clark, both of Indianapolis, were married Oct. 24 in Mark's United Methodist Church in Carmel. Their parents are Mr. and Mrs.

P. David King of Little Rock, and Mr. and Mrs. William F. Clark of Terre Haute.

The bride attended Butler University and graduated from Purdue University. She is a microbiologist for John Sexton Co. Her husband graduated from Butler and Indiana universities. He is an anesthesiology resident at 1.U. Medical Center.

Davis-Thein Patricia Ann Davis and James Reginald Thein, both of Indianapolis. were married Saturday in Wallace Street Presbyterian Church. Their parents are Doris Davis of Indianapolis the late Edward H. Davis and Mr. and Mrs.

Marinus C. Thein of Indianapolis. The bride graduated from Indiana University. She is a registered nurse at Community Hospitals. Her husband is a courier at Federal Express.

-Lozano Elisabeth Rene Dyer of Indianapolis and Emmanuel Pelagio of Cincinnati. Ohio. were married Saturday in St. Barnabas Catholic Church. Their parents are Evelyn M.

Sayers and Robert T. Lovelace of Indianapolis and Mr. and Mrs. Julio Lozano of Cincinnati. The bride graduated from the University of Texas and attends Indiana University.

She is an administrative assistant for Indiana University Foundation. Her husband attends the University of Cincinnati. He is a medical laboratory specialist for the Army Reserve. based in Fort Pierce, agrees that although love is an important part of any relationship, love in and of itself is not sufficient to keep it going. According to Rifkin, compatibility is key to maintaining a good relationship.

"That doesn't mean a couple has to have the same personality, or that they have to agree on everything," he said. "It means the couple has to be amenable to working through problems and be willing to work for the good of the relationship." Florida psychiatrist Jane Buchman lists a number of factors besides love that are necessary for making a relationship work. Among them are trust, respect, and communication. "You have to have some of all of these components, otherwise, love and the entire relationship could be destroyed," she said. "For instance, if you are not able to convey your feelings to someone, that lack of communication erode the relationship.

The bride Hospital attends Ball registered Hospital. from IUPUI a medical Wishard from IUPUI. She is store manager at Rent-A-Center. Her husband is an installer for Barclay Holland. Hadley-Doescher Marsha Ann Hadley of Indianapolis and Craig Thomas Doescher of Thiells.

N. were married Saturday in Christian Theological Seminary Chapel. Their parents are Mr. and Mrs. John F.

Hilfiker of Indianapolis and Mr. and Mrs. Walter Doescher of Thiells. The bride graduated from Purdue University. She is a salesclerk at Robert's Gifts.

Her husband graduated from the U.S. Military Academy. He is in the Army. Heinlein-Burke Mary R. Everly and Michael K.

Nierste, both of Indianapolis, were married Oct. 22 in All Souls Unitarian Church. Their parents are Mr. and Mrs. Lowell H.

Robbins of Westport and Mrs. Max Nierste of Indianapolis and the late Mr. Nieste. graduated from General School of Nursing and State University. She is a nurse at Wishard Memorial Her husband graduated and attends IUPUI.

He is equipment technician at Memorial Hospital. Forestal-Haeberle Forestal-Haeberle Diana Forestal and James Haeberle. both of Indianapolis, were married Saturday in Holy Spirit Catholic Church. Their parents are Mr. and Mrs.

Richard Forestal and Mr. and Mrs. William Haeberle, all of Indianapolis. The bride graduated Tracy Sue Heinlein and Ryan Neal Burke, both of Indianapolis, were married Saturday in Old id Bethel United Methodist Church. Their parents are Mr.

and Mrs. Leonard M. Heinlein of Indianapolis, and Mr. and Mrs. Larry R.

Burke of St. George Island, and Mr. and Mrs. Stephen T. McDonald of Bloomington.

The couple graduated from Indiana University. The bride is a member of Pi Beta Phi and is advertising media buyer for Pearson, Crahan Fletcher Group. Her husband is a member of Phi Delta Theta and is an interior designer for The Rowland Assoc. Hernly-Calaway Kellie Anne Hernly and Mark Lane Calaway, both of Indianapolis, were married Saturday in Faith Community Church. Their parents are Mrs.

Eugene A. Romano of San Francisco, and Phillip L. Hernly of New Whiteland, and Mr. and Mrs. Robert Calaway of Indianapolis.

The bride is a secretary for Delta Faucet Company. Her husband is a truck driver. McElheny-Purevich Deana Lynn McElheny and Roland Guy Purevich, both of Chicago, were married Saturday in Carmel United Methodist Church in Carmel. Their parents are Mr. and Mrs.

Richard K. McElheny of Carmel and Mr. and Mrs. Edward Purevich of East Chicago, Ind. The bride graduated from Ball State University and is a member of Alpha Omicron P1.

She is account manager for KnightRidder Commodity News Services. Her husband graduated from Ball State University and is a member of Sigma Chi. He is a commodity broker for Security Pacific Futures. "Marriage is a primary love itself can't conquer all." Gordon, 65. is widely education expert.

He is professor and family studies at Syracuse 1970, he founded the Institute Research and Education at university, and is a frequent circuit. In the book, Gordon relationships that one should walk how to determine if a shaky preserving. Among those people you warns Gordon, are addicts you in the dependency by getting should you marry someone who you or who abuses you emotionally, who is already married and spouse for you. Other high-risk marriages Owens-Busch Kimberly S. Owens and Stephen C.

Busch. both of Indianapolis, were married Saturday in Speedway Christian Church. Their parents are Deanna K. Hart and James L. Owens of Indianapolis and' Mrs.

Oral Busch of Indianapolis. The bride is an account representative for Interamerican. Her husband attends Indiana Vocational Technical College. He is a craftsman for Hebrew National Kosher Foods. Phillips-Baker Tamara Lynn Phillips and Steven William Baker.

both of Indianapolis, were married Saturday in Chapel Rock Christian Church. Their parents are Mr. and Mrs. Jay T. Jones of Speedway and Mr.

and Mrs. William L. Baker of Hope. The bride attends the University of Indianapolis. She is an executive secretary for Willoughby Industries.

Her husband graduated from Indiana State University. He is a sales representative for Honda West. Smith Weed Jodi L. Smith of Danville and George A. Weed Ill of Pittsboro were married Saturday in Northview Christian Church in Danville.

Their parents are Mr. and Mrs. Ralph L. Smith of Danville and June Weed of Pittsboro and Alan Weed of Benton, Ill. The bride is employed by Cutting USA.

Her husband graduated from Purdue University. He is a mechanic for American Trans Air. Stewart-Huffine Angie K. Stewart of Bargersville and Richard R. Huffine Jr.

of Indianapolis were married Saturday in St. Rose of Lima Catholic Church in Franklin. Their parents are Mr. and Mrs. Charles F.

Stewart of Bargersville and Mr. and Mrs. Richard R. Huffine of Indianapolis. The groom graduated from St.

Jo- Stump-Chaney Margaret Marie Stump and Randall Ray Chaney, both of Indianapolis, were married Saturday in First Church of the Nazarene. Their parents are Mr. and Mrs. Mark Stump of Portland and Mr. and Mrs.

Keith Rinker of Muncie, and Mr. and Mrs. Ray Chaney of Indianapolis. The bride graduated from Indiana Vocational Technical College. She is an accounting clerk at CII Development Inc.

Her husband is an electrician. Vaughan-Bindley Suzanne Golden Vaughan and James Franklin Bindley, both of Indianapolis, were married Saturday in St. Mary's Cathedral in Lafayette. Their parents are Mr. and Mrs.

Charles R. Vaughan of Lafayette and Mr. and Mrs. William F. Bindley of Terre Haute and the late Gertrude Lynch Bindley.

The bride graduated from Purdue University. Her husband graduated from Loyola University and the University of Kentucky. Lamm-Misgasky Judith Ann Lamm of Speedway and Arnold Alexander Misgasky of Indianapolis were married Saturday in St. Christopher's Catholic Church in Speedway. The bridegroom's parents are Mr.

and Mrs. Arnold Misgasky of Toledo. Ohio. The bride graduated from the Speedway Academy of Beauty Culture. She is a hair stylist for L.S.

Ayres Co. Her husband is a service technician. bond, but love recognized as a sexemeritus of child University. In for Family the New York guest on the lecture identifies people and away from, and relationship is worth shouldn't marry, will only share married, he says. Nor is violent toward or someone promises to divorce a include couplings Woodard-Hobson Dawn Denise Woodard and Jeffry Lee Hobson.

both of Wabash. were married Saturday in Colonial Hills Baptist Church. Their parents are Mr. and Mrs. Charles D.

Woodard of Indianapolis and Mr. and Mrs. Herbert J. Hobson The bride graduated College. Her husband Grace College.

The ployed at White's social worker and he both partners are very young: those where much of the time or don which couples fight to understand one another: and cases seem which one partner exhibits traits the other partn abhors. Whom should you marry? To Gordon, a basic mutual commitment in decision making is the mo equal essential opportunities of a happy marriage. It component necessary to discuss choices related to caree child-rearing. and lifestyle, he said. spender?" have separate interests? Vital questions, include, "Who is the bigge "Where will we live once we get married?" either of us have strong feelings about furniturefloor plans in our living space?" and important is religion in our life "Some of these issues might seem trivial, Gordon says, "but if you're not careful, you ca spend your whole life with someone who' completely wrong for Kirchner-Davis Carroll Lynn Kirchner and Brett Thomas Davis.

both of Indianapolis, were married Oct. 22 in First Meridian Heights Presbyterian Church. Their parents are Mr. and Mrs. John R.

Kirchner and Mr. and Mrs. Gaylord T. Davis, all of Indianapolis. Lacefield-Lewis The bride graduated from Ball State University and is a member of Pi Beta Phi.

She is assistant director of admissions at Butler University. Her husband attends Butler University. He is a salesman at Sitzmark. Lacefield-Lewis Stephanie Lynn Lacefield of Indianapolis and Stephen Wayne Lewis of Hastings, were married Saturday in Southport Baptist Church. Their parents are Mr.

and Mrs. William Lacefield and Mr. and Mrs. Phillip Lewis, all of Indianapolis. The couple graduated from Purdue University.

The bride is a registered nurse at Riley Hospital for Children. Her husband is an engineer for Northwest Airlines. Munkenbeck-O'Brian Brian Priscilla Munkenbeck of Garden City. N.Y.. and Jeffrey Joseph O'Brian of Indianapolis were married Oct.

22 in the Cathedral of the Incarnation in Garden City. Their parents are Mr. and Mrs. Arthur H. Munkenbeck Jr.

of Garden City and Dr. and Mrs. Earl J. O'Brian of Indianapolis. The bride graduated College.

Her husband graduated from Indiana University and the University of Tennessee. Hines-Mann Donna Sue Hines and Eric Michael Mann. both of Indianapolis. were married Oct. 22 in The Benton House.

Their parents are Mr. and Mrs. Donald E. Bennett of Wayne City, and Dr. and Mrs.

Bill D. Mann of Scottsburg. The bride attended Illinois Central College. She is senior secretary for Indiana National Business Development Corporation. Her husband graduated from Indiana University.

He is assistant vice president for Indiana National Bank. Newby-Appold Kendra J. Newby of West Lafayette and Brian M. Appold of San were married Oct. 22 in Sheridan United Methodist Church in Sheridan.

Their parents are Mrs. H. Eugene Newby of Sheridan and the late Dr. Newby and Mr. and Mrs.

Theodore Appold of Frankenmuth, Mich. The couple graduated from Purdue University. The groom is an engineer for VLSI Technology Inc. O'Neal-Crouch Michelle Elaine O'Neal and Rocky Crouch, both of Indianapolis, were married Saturday in Speedway Christian Church. Their parents are Mr.

and Mrs. Robert A. O'Neal Jr. of Indianapolis and Mr. and Mrs.

Robert Crouch of Speedway. The bride graduated from the University of Indianapolis. She is production coordinator for Goldsmith Marketing Group Inc. Her husband graduated from Indiana University. He is a sales representative for J.M.

McCormick Company. Haviland-Kirkwood Karla Kay Haviland and John Raymond Kirkwood, both of Indianapolis, were married Saturday in Meridian Street United Methodist. Their parents are Dr. and Mrs. David Kay Haviland of Indianapolis and Mr.

and Mrs. B. Robert Kirkwood of Tucson. Ariz. The bride is employed in the office of Governor Robert D.

Orr. Her husband is an attorney and partner with Johnson, Smith, Densborn, Wright and Heath. Sharko-Greer Kathleen M. Sharko of Bernards ville, N.J. and Rolli P.

Green Kihei, Hawaii, were married Nov. in Our Lady of Perpetual Help Bernardsville. Their parents are Mr. and Mrs Nicholas Shanlo of Bernardsville N.J.. and Dr.

and Mrs. Rollo Greer of Sheridan. The bride gradu ated from Lehigh and Tulane uni versities. She is a pediatric socia worker. Her husband graduatec from Wabash College and Tulane University.

He is clinic manager ol Lahaina Clinic. of Wabash. from Marion graduated from couple emInstitute. She is a is a child-care worker. Bates-Colecchi Danielle Lynn Bates and Anthony M.

Colecchi, both of Cincinnati. Ohio. were married Oct. 29 in St. Gertrude Catholic Church, Vandergrift.

Pa. Their parents are Mr. and Mrs. Donald Bates of Indianapolis and Mr. and Mrs.

Anthony Colecchi of Vandergrift. The bride graduated from Indiana University. She is national sales manager for Thomas America Corp. Her husband graduated from Clarion University. He is vice-president of Randy Gray Associates.

Rodewald-Hanssen Brenda Diane Rodewald of Indianapolis and Jeffrey Earl Hanssen of Greenfield, were married Oct. 22 in St. Michael's Church in Greenfield. Their parents are Mr. and Mrs.

Kenneth J. Rodewald of Indianapolis and Mr. and Mrs. Cyrille W. Hanssen of Evansville.

The bride graduated from Purdue University and is employed at Eli Lilly Co. Her husband graduated from Purdue University School of Veterinary Medicine and is a veterinarian. Postels-Crick Karen Lynn Postels of Indianapolis and Daniel Andrew Crick of London, England, were married Nov. 5 in Beck Chapel at Indiana University, Bloomington. Their parents are Mr.

and Mrs. Robert C. Postels of Greensboro, N. C. and Mr.

and Mrs. Michael Crick of London. The bride graduated from Indiana University. She is an elementary school teacher. Her husband graduated from Coventry and Indiana universities.

He is on the faculty of University of Wisconsin. Roberts-Wheat Kelly J. Roberts of Greenwood and Chris Wheat of Bargersville were married Oct. 22 in Olive Branch Christian Church. Their parents are Mr.

and Mrs. Lynn A. Roberts of Greenwod and Mr. and Mrs. Wendell Wheat of Bargersville.

The bride graduated from Midwest Travel Academy. She is a flight attendant and crew scheduler with American Trans Air. Her husband is employed by J. A. House Inc.

Macker-Binkley Cynthia Kay Macker and Dr William Foreman Binkley botl of Tampa, were married Satur day in Palma Ceia United Methodis Church in Tampa, Fla. Their parents are Mr. and Mrs Clifford Macker of Monticello, N.Y and Mr. and Mrs. William Binkley of Indianapolis.

The bride graduat ed from University of Kansas. She is a nurse at USAF Regional Hospi tal. Her husband graduated fron Indiana University and its school medicine. He is a physician a USAF Regional Hospital. The Star's bridal policy The Indianapolis Star wil publish your wedding announce ment, with or without a picture of the bride or bridal couple.

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